Unit 3: Becoming a Master Gardener to Cultivate Your Baby’s Optimal Growth
In today’s unit we’re talking about how you can become the master gardener for your baby’s development and create the ideal conditions for his/her growth.
WHAT ARE THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN THE BEHAVIORAL AND THE DEVELOPMENTAL APPROACH TO PARENTING?
Behavioral (or learning) approach: looks at what your child is doing and what behaviors you’re seeing and asks, “How can I change that? How can I make sure to teach the behavior that I want to see?”
Developmental (or relational) approach: looks at your child’s behaviors and asks “Why is my baby doing this? What is the need behind this behavior? Are my expectations developmentally appropriate here and what can I do to support my baby right now?”
BUT WHAT DOES THIS HAVE TO DO WITH GARDENING?
This concept encourages us to observe and understand the conditions where our babies will thrive the most.
Just like figuring out the right soil, watering schedule, fertilizer, and sunlight for our plants to bloom, we’re getting curious and striving to identify the conditions that are going to help our baby bloom and grow optimally.
ASSIGNMENT: IDENTIFY A CHALLENGE YOU’RE CURRENTLY HAVING WITH YOUR BABY AND ASK YOURSELF:
1. Why do you think your baby is doing this?
2. What needs is your baby trying to meet?
3. Are our expectations developmentally appropriate right now?
4. How can you support your baby right now and find something that works for both of you?
After you finish, feel free to email me your responses – especially if you’re struggling with this – and we can brainstorm and walk through this together.
COMING NEXT: WHAT IN THE WORLD IS TRUE PLAY?? (AND WHY IS THIS SO IMPORTANT?)
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