Unit 5: Finding the Balance Between True Play and Playing with Your Baby
Did you watch yesterday’s video and think – “Oh no! I’m constantly talking to and prompting my baby during playtime!” or “But how do I talk and engage with my baby through play if we’re supposed to step back and let him explore on his own??”
If so, this is the perfect lesson for you! Because we’re diving in discuss how to find the balance between create true play opportunities and stepping in to play with your baby.”
FIRST, A QUICK (BUT IMPORTANT) REMINDER:
Remember, play time is supposed to be fun. Both for your baby AND for you. The last thing I want is for you to feel really overwhelmed by all of the things that you “should” do and spend all of your time worrying about setting up a perfect play routine.
The whole point of this course is to step away from Pinterest perfect activities and overwhelming schedules and learn to find play opportunities all around you.
I honestly believe that the perfect play routine is the one that strips everything down to the basics and allows you to just enjoy play time with your baby. When we do this, everything else falls into place.
So throughout this entire unit, I want you to constantly ask, what play routine makes sense in our schedule right now? What sounds the most fun for me? What things are overwhelming me right now and how can I get rid of these?
WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO MAKE TIME FOR TRUE PLAY?
The reason that it’s important to find space for intentional true play for your baby is because of all of the benefits we talked about in the last unit. This type of play is going to give your baby all of those developmental benefits we’ve been talking about.
Creating the habit to add in true play each day is going to have so many positive long-term impacts, especially for the psychological and emotional development of your baby and their confidence and self-esteem. These are life-changing benefits that are well-worth making time for.
WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO MAKE TIME FOR 1-ON-1 INTENTIONAL PLAY WITH MY BABY?
In addition to adding one true play opportunity each day, I think it’s important to add in one one intentional 1:1 play time each day with your baby, because this is going to help your baby develop a deep, secure attachment with you and build the foundation of a strong relationship between the two of you.
Your baby’s main job in the first year is actually to develop secure attachments with the primary caregivers, so carving out the space for this 1:1 time will meet your baby’s need here and help you to feel such a deep personal satisfaction with your baby.
HOW DO I FIND THE BALANCE BETWEEN TRUE PLAY AND 1:1 PLAY?
It’s super simple actually .
As much as your schedule allows, each day I want you to try and create one play session each day that focuses on intentional true play and one play session per day that focuses on intentional one-on-one connections between the two of you.
Here’s three reminders to make this super easy to fit into your routine:
1. Make it as simple as possible.
2. Remember, playtime doesn’t need to be long.
3. Fill in the rest of your day with whatever play fits best for you and your baby today.
ASSIGNMENT: REFLECT ON TRUE PLAY AND PLAYING WITH YOUR BABY AND THEN INTENTIONALLY CARVE OUT SPACE FOR BOTH IN YOUR PLAY ROUTINE.
While you’re reflecting, ask yourself:
1. Do you think one of these will come more naturally to you?
2. How can you spend a few minutes promoting true play?
3. How can you spend a few minutes promoting 1:1 play?
After you finish, send me a quick email with your responses and any questions you have on this.
COMING NEXT: THE SECRETS TO CREATING A STRESS-FREE PLAY ROUTINE
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